night at around 6 p.m., the eight residents of a home on 162nd Street and
35th Avenue in Flushing gather together and prepare to enjoy a home cooked
sit around their dinner table, bow their heads and say grace before
placing their napkins on their laps and passing around the food. The
serving dishes move in an orderly fashion around the circular table, with
the words “please” and “thank you” uttered repeatedly.
night, residents and workers
at the Flushing AABR group home
pass food around the table and
enjoy a home-cooked meal.
Photo by Angela Montefinise
eight young men and women talk about the various things they did during
the day and what they plan to do the next day. They tell jokes and talk
about their lives. They laugh and comfort each other if their daytime
chores were tough.
an ordinary dinner in what seems to be an ordinary two-story white home
from the outside.
on the inside, it’s clear this is no ordinary place.
house is a group home run by the Association for the Advancement of the
Blind and Retarded (AABR), a State-funded agency that runs 19 group homes
across the five boroughs, including 10 in Queens.
eight residents in the Flushing house are mentally-disabled men and women
who spend their days learning responsibility, social skills and work
skills, and spend their nights relaxing, playing video games, watching
television, talking, and exercising.
learn responsibility by working at the group home, but also learn
social skills by playing board games together.
Photo by Angela Montefinise
learn to be independent, but are supervised 24 hours a day by at least two
AABR workers, and are assisted in most of their activities and chores.
of AABR Residential Services Hezikeigh Elliott defined what her agency
does for its “consumers” when she said, “We maximize potential for a
it does so much more than that. Assistant Director of Residential Services
Ruth Edoho said the house is “like a family,” and said, “There’s
so much love here. We make this their home.” Although she said there is
a lot of “ignorance” about group homes in the community, she said,
“If people really took the time to see how we work, they’d see we do
wonderful things for these wonderful people.”
consumers agree. Just ask Dulcette, one of the consumers. As she proudly
looked around the living room, she said, “This is my house. I love this
order for an agency to open a group home in a neighborhood, it has to
follow a series of complicated procedures, including finding a location,
purchasing or renting it, and applying for a license with the State Office
of Mental Retardation and Developmental Disabilities.
applications are “extremely detailed,” Edoho said, and have to be
reviewed by local community boards before they are sent to the State
office for final approval. Edoho said, “Unfortunately, we often
experience difficulties at the Community Board level because people
don’t understand group homes. There are misconceptions.”
said, “People think that the homes will drive down housing values or
create too much noise or trouble. Not true at all. We have excellent
relationships with all of our neighbors, and we are good neighbors.”
the Flushing AABR house, there are eight residents, four men and four
women. Each consumer shares a room with another consumer of the same sex,
with the guys on one side and the girls on the other. Their rooms are
filled with pictures of their families, pictures they drew, and other
things they enjoy.
Damon shows off some personal photos, which he proudly displays
all over his room.
Photo by Angela Montefinise
has a television in her room that she got for Christmas last year, and she
said, “I love that television. It’s a beauty.” She said, “C’mon
baby,” as she tried to turn the set on, eventually accomplishing the
task and sitting on her bed, relaxing and watching “Fresh Prince of Bel
can also relax in the house’s basement, where exercise machines, board
games, a television, and video game systems are at their disposal.
There’s also the patio and the “quiet room,” where consumers can sit
and “get away from it all,” according to House Manager Suzette Miller.
She said, “After a long day, they like to unwind just like anybody
the consumers have to unwind from is a series of chores that they have to
complete each day, from setting the table to taking a shower.
said, “They take pride in what they do. It motivates them.” During a
recent visit, Freddy – one of the consumers – proudly displayed the
house’s chores chart, which informs the residents of what they have to
do that day.
have to set the table,” Freddy said. Then, with minimal help from two
employees, he placed knives, forks and napkins around the dinner table. If
he placed something in the wrong spot, Edoho would correct him, with
Freddy responding, “I know, I know.”
the home has a housekeeper who does the cooking and cleaning, the
consumers help, and Medicaid Service Coordinator Giselle James said,
“They all think they’re the best cook. ‘My food is so delicious,’
they always say. They love what they do to help around here.”
employees, who are all specially trained by AABR, constantly compliment
the consumers, with Edoho saying, “It’s important to show them that
you care and you love them. You have to understand, these people love and
accept you for exactly what you are, no questions asked. They’re
extremely sweet and innocent. You have to learn from that, and accept them
in the same way.”
living at a group home isn’t all about chores and games.
to Edoho, the consumers spend their days outside of the house, doing a
variety of things that increase their work skills.
explained that they sometimes participate in a supported work program,
working at sites such as Office Max and Toys ‘R Us. She said, “They go
to different places and do different jobs. Sometimes they do maintenance,
sometimes they do stocking. They do all kinds of things.”
times, the consumers go through a day treatment program, where they learn
job training skills at one of three educational facilities, all located in
Queens. The Flushing house uses the St. Pascal’s facility in St. Albans,
and Edoho said, “We try to teach them how to communicate, how to listen,
and teach them basic skills they may need at their jobs.”
to Edoho, when the family of a person diagnosed with mental retardation
decides it wants to place the person in a group home, it submits the
request to the State Department of Retarded and Developmental Disorders,
which refers the family to a group home agency. AABR is just one of them.
said, “We are often used by the State because we have an excellent
reputation and an excellent track record.” She said AABR’s case
management department works with the consumers before they are placed into
a house, and she said, “We treat these people with the utmost respect
and dignity. Many times, with this population, you don’t see that
the AABR staff works with the consumers on an everyday basis, each
consumer also has a Medicaid service coordinator, who deals with their
consumer’s State case and all other government and insurance issues.
Edoho said, “Having that makes it a lot easier to deal with the
AABR services consumers of all ages, and has a long waiting list,
something Edoho said, “Is forcing us to find more space.” She said,
“We’re looking into opening up more sites. Getting the word out about
group homes and how beneficial they are is a good way to start.”
is a Queens-based non-profit entity that was established in 1956 to help
people diagnosed with mental retardation or autism lead productive lives.
offers educational facilities in Queens, residential facilities across the
five boroughs and family services, and always does everything “with the
consumer always in mind, first and foremost,” Edoho said.
more information on AABR or to make a contribution, go to www.aabr.org.