I think they should develop dandruff shampoo for your personal life, because it seems
I attract more flakes that I know what to do with.

If I hear one more woman complain about the lack of good eligible men out there, I think
I will throw up.

Quit lying to yourselves and face the fact that many of you love drama. That is your life,
and that is what you really
want.

In my circle of male friends, I know a marketing director, a U.S. Marshal, a doctor, a realtor, several other reporters, lawyers, cops and the like. All in their 30s or so. All of them are on track in their careers, respectful
to women and overall good people. All of them without a doubt complain about the dating game. It seems they believe that most women they are attracted to are either materialistic, self-centered, or like gangsters.

To each his or her own for sure. But don’t get on talk shows or radio shows
or huddle in nail shops whining about the lack of good men out there. There
are a ton. They just don’t have the slick line, fancy car, or aren’t stupid enough to throw a lot of money at a woman they hardly know.

If that whole six degrees of separation rule is true, then I represent about
200 men here in the city that are just like me. They are decent looking, financially stable, can dance, have a sense of humor and know how to treat a woman.

Yes, a few of them are recovering "dogs," but even they are hungry for the one person who will quench that hunger for love and companionship.

But they face a world of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.

The rules – Oprah blah, blah, blah that makes for more confrontation than consolation, not calling back right away, making and breaking plans, even ordering food – all of these seem to be a part of some struggle for superiority.

Don’t we get enough of that at work? Why must we engage in that kind of "Wild Kingdom" struggle in our personal lives? It’s no wonder everyone is mad at everyone else.

As a man I readily accept the responsibility that men should accept the messed up things going on now between the sexes. That being said, it’s time for the other half to do the same.

Look inside and ask yourself, "Why do some guys treat women badly?"

For some, it is what they do since that is all they know.

But there is another set of men in between those guys and the perfect men you may seek.

He is a man who wants to treat you well, but won’t because you will somehow find it odd or less than masculine.

I am not talking about "getting things" because anybody can do that. I mean genuinely treating you like someone special. Doing that doesn’t appear to be the "in" thing.

What’s popular seems to be what is similar to the kind of behavior that’s depicted in videos and on CD tracks.

Is a man more suitable if he uses a range of derogatory synonyms for the words that usually mean woman, lover, or baby? Is he more attractive if he doesn’t return pages or calls for hours or even days? Is he sexier if he wants to fight any and every other guy who looks in your general direction?

Well, there has to be a measure of truth to the answer of yes to those questions, since a good number of women are with guys who are like that right now. While men like Cliff, and Rob, George, Esquire and other guys in my circle are not – they are alone because they are good guys.

I suppose that, to some measure, we all want what we can’t have, but I do believe that we can get what we really want.

In the world of dating that can seem like an impossible task in a world of fronting, flaking and perpetrating.

Regardless of what I say, though, we will go on.

People will get together, date, marry, and unfortunately divorce. But along the way wouldn’t you like to know that it was real and that somehow you didn’t get duped into just going with the flow?

Ladies, if you know what you want, act like it.